In the pursuit of a balanced perspective we keep an eye out for trouble and over time subtly developing a penchant for the process, we in affect, at least ensure (however insignificant) a form of trouble.
Like when a politician first gets elected, we want to give them a chance to prove how different they are. (Even if we didn’t vote for them, we try to wish them well.) Perhaps they won’t turn out to be as bad as we feared and sometimes, (with politicians, just sometimes) they don’t. Sometimes though, they turn out to be worse than we could have ever imagined. If we extend the benefit of doubt toward someone or something dubious, our judgement(s) as being ‘dubious’ and/or ‘extending the benefit of doubt’, already has begun to take effect. For all intense purposes, hope for the best but by keeping a wary eye out for trouble we are focussed to and more readily scanning for the negative. Sure, in the case of a politician; each time a good policy or action transpires we take on and register that positive but for the purpose of the initial judgement ‘dubious’ and the now balancing act of human nature that has come into play also ensures we continue to increase the levels at which we scan for this initial uncertainty. (Put to larger collectives this ‘query turned perspective’ shift becoming even more prevalent and ubiquitous.) Obviously after a certain criterion has been met the doubt begins to ebb and wane, inturn reducing the focus on looking for fault or negatives.
The problem is though, as I imagine you can see; during this interim where we haven’t made up our mind. At the first sight of trouble when the politician does create a negative, for some of us our initial query or awareness is now on the road to being encouraged to become a reinforced / accurate judgement and correct appraisal of the situation, (the scanning heightened and in anticipation of another negative). Or is ‘extending the benefit of doubt’ simply a futile exercise in challenging the fabric of our pessimistic plane because after all simultaneously our subconscious and consciousness previously appraised the situation (in accordance with our previously defined beliefs and ‘rules’) and made the appropriate choice / direction for us?
I’m not completely sure but I think this process is the rudimentary pessimistic neural pathway of a human brain. In times to come those people in places that we all listen to, will discover this occurrence as a real and contributing phenomenon that exudes a natural force, giving real and true affect to outcomes.
Thought #2
Who cares what state the world is in? Our needs are so simple yet we have the capacity to understand so much. While some of us narrow our sights, others worry about more than they need to. It’s easy to be selfish but innately don’t we all want to support a higher cause?
Thought #3
All good journeys pass through changing territory. One moment we find ourselves looking out on a waste land and we feel mighty glad we are not staying in such places. We even begin to worry we are not moving fast enough. Then as if all too quickly, we find ourselves absorbing beautiful scenery. We doubt our destination. Why not stop right here? Enjoy what ever is now before us, if it is anything, even just slightly like it has been in the past – and be aware that soon there will be something much greater.
Thought #4
The eternal question, well maybe not eternal question but certainly one that endeavours to raise its head quite often; Should you leave well alone or should you accept the invitation that jiggles and dangles before you? There are some things that absolutely have to be done while there are others that are more uncertain. The golden rule seems to be where there is doubt, respect it!
Thought #5
Someone’s behaviour lets you down and you’re far from impressed. ‘Can’t they do better?’, ‘Don’t they understand?’ Or perhaps there is something you do not understand. Maybe you were trying to imagine what you would do if you were wearing their shoes, whilst still wearing your own shoes!
Thought #6
The more resilient the packaging, the more fragile the contents can be, yet we seldom align this with people.
Thought #7
You can run from here to the end of the earth but you can’t escape your own shadow. If however, you face a very strong source of light, you can fix it so that your shadow always falls behind you. (That way you can also be gloriously oblivious of your own dark side, whilst everyone else is all too keenly conscious of it). Seriously though by and large to recognise the negative side of yourself rather than living in denial enables you to own it and that’s the essence to making amends for it.
Thought #8
I have come to understand ‘no’ is not an easy world to say. Some people have to practise a lot before they ever manage to utter it. Perhaps that is why once they have mastered this difficult art, they are so keen to show off their prowess.
Thought #9
There seems to be reasons for resistance and this is resentment. It’s not the kind of thing that can be removed overnight. These reasons for changes not taking place straight away are those we must look for until we find what it is and then respect it.
Thought #10
For others, a freeway has to be pretty badly congested before it is worth taking an alternative route. Although available to us there are convoluted alternatives, the complications of which appear attractive with hidden benefits we may never encounter if we were to do otherwise – the main road from A to B for all its drawbacks and shortcomings still remains the best road.
Thought #11
It seems critical faculties are easy to engage when there’s something or someone we don’t like. Like wise, when we are exited about a person or a proposition they are easy to disengage. The switch turns on or off, not really a dimming facility or at least where the very strong emotions are being stirred. Moderation is much easier to preach than practise and I am sure this is why when in practise this quality helps to avoid mistakes.
Thought # 12
There’s no such thing as perfection. You should know, you’re the closest thing to it. (Come on, don’t be modest.) Even you can see room for improvement in yourself. I am trying to reflect the way in which confidence swings back and forth like the pendulum of a freshly wound clock. Should you feel proud or pitiful? Neither. You have faith in one idea, no matter what mistakes have been made – or how things have turned out so far, the future will yet be fine.
A vision of love
Love is a very benevolent expression of passion between two people made up of varied and varying desires enfolded in a plethora of emotions. Interestingly however, even though this is a mutual occurrence this doesn’t mean the experience is the same for both concerned. There is distinctly a juxtaposition of two types of participant; the beloved and the lover and perhaps paradoxically they seem to originate from two very different perspectives.
Often the beloved is only a stimulus for all the stored up love which has lain quiet within the lover for a long time hitherto. And some how every lover knows this. He (/she) feels in his soul that his love is a solitary thing. He comes to know a new, strange loneliness and it is this knowledge which makes him suffer. So there is only one thing for the lover to do. He must house his love within himself as best he can; he must create for himself a whole new inward world – a world intense and strange, complete in himself. Let it be added here that this lover about whom we speak need not necessarily be about a young man saving for a wedding ring – this lover can be a man, woman, child or indeed any human creature on this earth.
Now the beloved can also be of any description. The most outlandish people can be the stimulus for love. A man may be a doddering great grandfather and still love a strange girl he saw in the street one afternoon two decades past. The preacher may love a fallen woman. The beloved may be treacherous, greasy-headed and given to evil habits. Yes and the lover may see this as clearly as anyone else – but that does not affect the evolution of this love one bit. A most mediocre person can be the object of a love which is wild, extravagant and beautiful as the poison lilies of a swamp. A good man may be the stimulus for a love both violent and debased or a jabbering madman may bring about in the soul of someone a tender and simple idyll. Therefore the value and quality of any love is determined solely by the lover himself.
It is perhaps for this reason most of us would rather love than be loved. Almost everyone wants to be the lover and the curt truth is that in a deep secret way, the state of being beloved is intolerable to many. The beloved fears and hates the lover and with the best of reasons, for the lover is forever trying to strip bare his beloved. The lover craves any possible relationship with the beloved, even if this experience can cause him only pain.
